My life is filled with Beauty. There are moments of Beauty, Beautiful places, Beautiful things, Beautiful conversations and Beautiful people. I was even using the hashtag #addictedtobeauty for awhile on a social art app (I should probably start using that again).
Sometimes, the simplest things stick in your head and heart to create Beautiful moments. Like spending the day working in the same space together. Sharing a pizza at a bar. Discovering a pet peeve and working through it. Learning about expectations and whether (or not) they can or will be met. Or do they just need to be readjusted? Or how about sitting quietly in a movie theater? (Seriously don't talk to me at the movies!!!).
I am guilty of having been that guy. You know, the one whose interest fades that very instant when Beauty does. We've talked about this; I can be shallow sometimes. But over time, I have come to learn to appreciate the moments that are not, by any stretch of the imagination, Beautiful. You know, the mundane, every day stuff that can lead to disagreements about essential things. Things as simple as closing the shower curtain when you get out or putting down the toilet lid before you flush (things I never thought about but can be serious for a partner). Or even the unpleasant conversations about things you really didn't want to talk about --the complicated convos like: Do you want kids? How will they be raised? Is it okay to have other partners? Morning sex? (You may not know this but people disagree about this stuff! lol)
And here's some really bad news: Even the sex isn't always Beautiful (I hate it when that happens)! Sometimes it's just okay. Or hell, sometimes, for a thousand different reasons, it just doesn't happen at all.
Honestly, I try to surround myself by and fill my life with as much Beauty as I can. I thrive on it. It feeds me. But I also find it quite fascinating how the other not-so-Beautiful moments stick out when I reminisce on the Beautiful ones. So I will continue to honor these not-so-Beautiful moments. Why? ‘Cause truth is, the moments that are not-so-Beautiful are the real meat of our relationships. Not every moment can be beautiful, but believe it or not, these moments are what allow Beauty to be both recognized and sustained.
Love them as they are, have amazing sex and communicate with intention.